- I felt it a good time to say this over again....
We ALL start out like the baby in this picture.
Helpless, innocent, dependent on others for food and nurturing and unable to make any choices of our own.
The things that are done to us as children help form how we act as adults.
We can change those "habits"---the coping skills we developed as a result of how the Adults around us dealt with us as children. But if we don't recognize that some of them are just that---temporary mechanisms used to deal with abusive or neglectful adults---then we might cling to these coping skills and continue to use them inappropriately throughout our lifetime.
I have been working on identifying my unnecessary coping skills for a few years now. I still have some I cling to and they rear their ugly heads from time to time and hurt people.
I can only hope that those people will forgive me.
Because I am realizing that I must forgive others for their out-dated coping skills that they cling to that rear up and hurt me sometimes too.
Doesn't mean I will continue to be subject to it--I will take measures to be self-protective.
But I forgive those who have hurt me.
Everyone started out precious.
That's what I choose to see.
I seek only to start over.
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