He said that when my ex did not share the love and affection that he was showing to me in front of Aric, With Aric....my boy reasoned that he was losing me. Since the boyfriend was not Participating in a Family-type relationship, a huge part of my Life was Off-Limits to my son.
So he reacted with the only tool in his toolbox that he KNOWS will get Results...Aggression.
It was That Primal to him.
And it makes me feel ill to think I had to put him through that to Learn the things I needed to Learn.
Yesterday morning, I kept him home later in the morning, because his big brother had stayed late making modeling clay figures the night before with him...and my son not only kept dry all night (for a month now--no diaper!) but also rode from Mpls to Lakeville in the front seat with NO NOISES. That means no stimming, or autistic hooting, etc. He has been working on that at the Therapy Center. Then he rode from Lakeville to Woodbury. Again No Noises. We talked like Adults....that was the Rule. We played a form of "I Spy" out the window.
It was So Cool.
He is showing me his appreciation for my choice.
So....as Difficult as it may be.... (Or Not? I am up for Easy this time, Universe.) ....I Absolutely Have to Have a Person in my Life who is Good with my Son.
Cuz he's The Dude, ya know?
*smiles*
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